We are social beings. Friendships define our formative years and influence who we are going to be. Interestingly, barring a few years in the middle—which are defined by a yearning and search for romantic love—the early decades of our lives as well as the later ones are all about the connections we make with other human beings we aren’t interested in sleeping with. To that end, friends play a greater role in our lives than our partners, spouses or lovers ever will.
Having spent my early years as a member of an itinerant family—I was the child of an army officer—with each posting I gradually lost touch with those I had once imagined life impossible about. These were girls I hadn’t needed language to communicate with, there had been understood silences, unspoken vows, and, with one of them, even a secret language. And yet, time and distance dulled the emotional memory of what we had once shared.